A text exchange with Matamour got me scrolling through my olds texts with Partner. In summer of 2019, they shared this from their diary.

Ask for refuge when you need and be a refuge when you can. Hold space for your friends' fear and despair and heartbreak.

If the arc of history bends toward justice, it does so because we, the many, bend it by force. But that is only possible if we can come home to the soft smile of a friend who has your back.

Share the intimacy of telling each other what you need from each other on the Really Bad Days. Love each other by strengthening the knots in each other's safety nets.